28 September 2011

Qian Qian - The Next Step

A quick post as I have no internet at home and have had to go to the school to get online.

In November we are hopeful that QQ will have gained enough weight to travel for surgery to close his palate. (If you are unfamiliar with Qian Qian's awesome story, start with the "Humanity"posts in October last year and then catch up with the labels "Qian Qian.")

The remote village where he lives is experiencing a horrible drought and the entire rice crop for this year was lost.  For QQ's farming family of 2 parents, 4 children, and two grandparents, this is a life or death crisis.  Please lift up his family and their whole village who is hearing for the first time about a new Hope they have never heard of before. 

We have, through donations from readers here and our personal funds, been "sponsoring" QQ's food and medical care over the past 11 months.  His next surgery is crucial and he is nearing the 2 year-old mark that Western doctors insist is a key point where speech will be affected if the palate is not closed by that time.  We tried to have this surgery done in May of this year, but QQ was showing signs of malnourishment and the doctors refused him.

We have been working with a partner in his province who has now been, bi-weekly, taking food (milk powder, eggs, cereal) to QQ to ensure his weight gain.  He is now at 10.5 kilograms.  He MUST weigh at least 11 kgs by the November surgery date or he will be refused again.  It would be best if he weighed 11.5-12 kgs so that his body would be strong for the healing that is necessary after such a significant surgery.

At any rate, he has been gaining (up 1.5 kgs in the past 3 months) and we are setting our sights on November.

I have posted a Chip-in again on the blog to raise the funds necessary to continue his support up to and for 1 month after surgery (as needed), his medical care, the travel required for the family to the surgery, and for lodging for the family in the distant city while he receives his surgery.  If you are able to help us provide for QQ and his family in this matter, we would be grateful. 

The above photo is of QQ and his older sister...

Please feel free to email us any inquires you might have about the situation.

27 September 2011

Cat Drama

"Momma, Euphrates has been missing for two days!" said Magpie, nearly breathless with emotion on the eve of my return to the Middle Kingdom.

"Did you leave any doors open to the balconies?  To the hallway?"

"No Momma, we are always so careful!  But, today I saw that the screen had ripped away from the corner of the frame in the door!"

I assured her that perhaps he was just "hiding" somewhere in the house as the big tomcat sometimes likes to do.

When I arrived more than 24 hours later, he was still missing.  Full of excitement to see the kids, organize the house, and prepare for the reunification events when Daddy returned from Beijing...I thought only a bit about poor, missing Euphrates.  His mate, Tigris, meowed and continued to search the apartment for her love.  (We got the kitties while we were doing a unit in World History on Mesopotamia, thus the names.)

Daddy and the kids had canvased the 12 stories of our apartment building, door to door, and had gone around the outside of the building looking for any sign of him in the days following his initial disappearance.  But, he had, quite literally, vanished.

Just as I was posting my last post here, an excited Nai Nai (grandmother) in our building came to the door exclaiming that she thought she had seen our "big cat."  She informed us that they had seen him outside and that he had crawled up into a tight spot in the building, but that one of his legs was definitely hurt. 

With our fears confirmed that he had indeed fallen eight stories, we went down immediately to try to confirm that it was our cat.

He had crawled up into a cement housing where the huge industrial air conditioners are located on the building.  He had gotten behind a slatted covering for the cement alcove and we could not see him.  We heard him growling a bit and hurriedly opened a can of clams in an attempt to draw him out.  He did not respond to the food.

Daddy was to return that afternoon from Beijing so here I was, all seven kids in the pajamas, outside at 7 am, trying to figure out how to get our injured cat out of his hiding place.  The kids were alternating between excitement, fear, and tears as I tried to get them to settle down enough so that I could think.

Luckily, the slatted covering, while having some 25 holes where it should have been affixed to the building...only had 4 Phillips-head screws holding it in place.  Unable to find a Phillips-head in the mayhem, I settled for a regular screwdriver that could manage about a half a turn of the screw before it would fall out (the head of screw was smaller than my screwdriver.)

By the time I got to the fourth screw, a crowd had gathered and one of my students brought me a proper Phillips-head which dispatched the remaining screw in record time.

As we drew nearer to the cat, I realized that it could be a scene of gore...or perhaps the cat was a great flight risk...and I could have 7 screaming kids to contend with as well.   My cooler head prevailed and I sent two of the H Fam knocking on one of our new teammates' door.  Mr. & Mrs. S, from our hometown, graciously answered the door and Mr. S hurriedly came to our aid.  Upon moving the air conditioner slightly and he and I making a positive ID of the cat...our next concern was that his back was in fact, broken, as he was folded up in a very awkward position.  Given that it was now the 5th day since he had gone missing, I assumed that we were in for a very sad day for the children.

Mr. S swooped in with a towel and brought out our half-dead cat into the light.  We put him in a box and called our school bus driver and prevailed upon him to come pick us up so that we could take the cat to the vet.

With bizarre clothing selections, a pair of mismatched shoes, and un-brushed teeth, we loaded all the H family (minus the traveling Daddy) into the yellow school bus with our half-dead cat...and another student who lives in the apartments who could not resist the draw of being a part of our sideshow.

The vet clinic, ripe with the odor of urine and sickness, was just coming alive for the day.  An enormous, I mean, ENORMOUS barking German Shepherd greeted us at the door.  (I am certain that The Singer and The Bruiser were the perfect size for a scooby-snack for that beast.)  The young "vet" (who probably went to a veterinary training program at a technical college of sorts) greeted us with his plan of action.  X-rays first, then we would decide if there was anything that could be done for poor Euphrates.

When I touched that poor cat he felt like a hairy prune. There was absolutely no water left in that poor guy...5 days with no food or water had taken a terrible toll on him.  I wanted them to give him an IV immediately, but no, the x-rays HAD to be done first.  (Here, when you have any illness, even the common cold, you go to the hospital and EVERYONE gets an IV.  The joke is that we foreigners are always trying to avoid the hospital because we KNOW that we will be given an IV for treatment.  The irony of this event is that I actually was ASKING for an IV for Euphrates and couldn't get it!)

The x-rays revealed that there was a bad break in his left back leg.  His back was spared any damage, but the vet said that the x-ray revealed an "enlarged heart." Hmmmmm....

I then had to sign a waiver that the IV might cause sudden death of the cat due to his enlarged heart...but I reasoned that given the 5 days no food or water and the glassy, unfocused stare of the poor guy...he was on his way out anyway...what did we have to lose?

The IV did not kill him.

Some 4 hours later, the cat showed interest in eating and drinking and so we gave him soft food and water that he lapped up vigorously.

The leg has still not been set.  The thinking Here is that we need to get him "balanced" with his health before we cause him to endure the surgery to set the leg.  Today is 7 days since the break.  It doesn't really go with the Western medical thought I'm accustomed to...but then...I'm not in the West, am I?

Each day we must go to the hospital and pay for his daily IV, food, and Ibuprofen injection for the inflammation and pain (about $10 USD).  His cage has no bedding (the thought Here is that it is better for him to sleep on the hard surface for his health) and he is next to a pig (that someone apparently decided that they don't want and the vet keeps asking ME TO TAKE HOME!)

We hope that surgery will be tomorrow.  Then they may want to keep him in the torture chamber pet hospital for 15 days.  (I think I may assert my opinion at that point and bring him home to convalesce in a more comfortable surrounding.)

It is likely that he will never really be able to use that leg again.  I can't imagine that with the break as bad as it is (involving a joint that punctured through the skin) that this vet will possess the skill to really "save" the use of the leg.

Daddy, when considering the situation and the cost to repair the cat (which by Western standards is really slight, but a great deal for our budget nonetheless) suggested that perhaps Euphrates just not come home. (His suggestion was really in jest as he would never dream of such a thing)  But we both agreed that such a position is not really congruent with our family's position on those with special needs...so what...he'll only have three legs... he'll fit in better with our tribe anyway. (I am smiling as I type that.)

I promise to have some photos of the above drama posted here soon...I did get some taken on the student's phone who accompanied us to the vet hospital.

On a stroke of good favor...the vet clinic turned out to be next door to the glasses shop that we had to go to that day to replace Brownie's red glasses that were flushed down the toilet the night before...

Ah yes,  life is finally getting back to normal...

24 September 2011

At least it was a smooth landing...

After the trip I'd not like to repeat, full of the turbulence of emotions, sleep deprivation, and trying to reason with an unreasonable 3 year old Bruiser...our "Pilot" gave us a smooth landing at our home!  All the prayer, definitely was realized as we have now been home for 2.5 days and have no residue of jet lag!  We arrived the first night and hit the beds at 2 am...I awoke at 4 and started the day.  Amazingly, while I am a strong believer in the "kicking jet lag rule" of NO SLEEP UNTIL BEDTIME ON THE FIRST DAY...the boys made it!  Surely the excitement of being home helped, but I was astounded that it was not until 7 pm on that first day that they began to fall over while standing up.  We were attending a birthday for one of our new teammates and just after they ate...they began to drop.  We hurried home, got them (and me) into bed by 8 and we slept until 6:30 am the next morning! It is now the next morning and we repeated the same performance last night, in bed by 8 and up at 6:30!  We will survive!

The ride home from the airport was a chatty one with our Uncle from our local family.  I had the joy and privilege of sharing the whole glorious story of his son's amazing decision and transformation this summer that I was most blessed to witness!  He was so moved by the retelling of it...and it was another unspeakable joy to carry the details of such news to this place.

I was also encouraged that after some 12 weeks, my Chinese came back when I returned!   When I ordered food in Beijing for the boys I was delighted that I had no trouble understanding or being understood!  I am ever so hopeful that this year my functional language will really blossom further into some more expressive language.

For those of you who saw me personally and heard of some trouble we were experiencing...another great Answer has been received...the Official matter including our most important documents has been resolved!  The document was returned to Daddy just before he left to take Grandma D to Beijing (where he still is this am...yes, I have yet to see Daddy though at least we are now in the same country)!  There is one more administrative process that will be handled over the next two weeks that will change our documents officially over to the appropriate status of our positions.  We don't anticipate any hiccups with this now that the official matter has been closed, but, we would  still ask for you to lift this up until all matters are concluded.

I visited the school on our first day home and was absolutely thrilled to be welcomed by our students with hugs and smiling faces!  It was a wonderful, wonderful welcome and I was thankful for this place He's prepared for us to live.  We have become in these three + years, truly, a part of our community.

Today I will head out with the 7 young in a move forced by the unintended flushing of Brownie's red glasses down the toilet!  As she really cannot see well without them and as school is in session...we must rush out get a new exam and get some new glasses before Monday.  (Amazingly possible here that you can often get glasses made the same day!  Her last pair of glasses cost the equivalent of $20 USD!)

I need to rush off and keep organizing the unpacked items that threatened to overwhelm us just two days ago.  (Our house looked like an advertisement for that "Hoarding show" on in the US that I was horrified to see this summer!)   I know that all the items will disappear soon enough once our life resumes of weekly entertaining. I am determined to have the mega table cleared and covered with a table cloth before my beloved returns home tonight and we're reunited!  (Now hearing strains from that 70s tune..."Reunited and it feels so good...")

We hope to have some news to share on the adoption front not long after our National Holiday here (October 1-7)...and my, do we have a story to tell there...but you'll have to keep hanging on for more later.

For those of you wondering...the "leaking substance" in the suitcase was NOT strawberry freezer jam (thanks to H & B's excellent packing and safeguarding of that nectar)...but in fact was the ONLY item that I didn't double/triple bag...some of the Bruiser's medicine left over from his surgery in August that I had just thrown in. 

Must run, it is a day to celebrate!

22 September 2011

Made it...

...just barely...

the flights and baggage situations were all good...real blessings in fact...as we had extra baggage allowance afforded us and help from folks here and there when we were giving out on this long journey home...

the boys brought new meaning to "weeping and gnashing of teeth"....

I felt the prayer support, most certainly, as I could have sat down and cried a dozen times.

All sons and bags arrived...only one bag leaking with as yet an unknown substance...

greeted by two gorgeous, sleeping daughters already...

bed is next, the TALE will be told later about the last 24 hours...

thanks for your PRAYERS!

17 September 2011

Dancin' in the Streets

well, not really.
I don't allow him to dance in the streets...but The Bruiser is a mighty happy soul since Wednesday brought freedom from his leg cast!  The trooper has worn a cast all summer (10 weeks) and on Wednesday when the tech cut off the cast The Bruiser commanded that he "throw that in the TRASH!"

We're amazed at the healing in his leg!

He now will use an orthotic brace for the next several months with the goal of weaning off of it after 3-6 months.  We're praying now that the tendons in his feet will strengthen and help his foot remain flat to the ground (instead of rolled up onto the side and his tippy toes) thus avoiding more surgery next summer.

As the reason we remained stateside while all the other family is back home in the Middle Kingdom is now removed...we are profoundly homesick at this point.  The boys are as friable as I've ever seen them.  The slightest issue dissolves them into tears (or violence against their brother-man.)  And I am, well, I am a jumble of nervous energy, emotion, and angst.  (Note to all of you...if you see us coming down the road...best to just avoid us and let us pass on by!)

We're excited for a huge happening coming this Sunday morning as we'll celebrate one from our "local family" in the Middle Kingdom as he participates in the symbolic rite of dying to his past and being raised anew.  (I'll be the one hollering with joy!)  Sunday evening will bring a chance to visit with friends at a potluck to share some crazy stories of life in the Middle Kingdom.  (If you're reading this and you'd like to come, EMAIL ME, all are welcome.)

Monday will bring some shots for Bub (that ought to go really smoothly after the week we're having)...cramming suitcases full of things we've been accumulating...and praying for a "good weigh-in" at that airport counter on Tuesday (glad their not weighing ME in after 11 weeks in the States)!

We know that there might be a major slight problem when we get to Beijing with the transfer of our baggage from the International flight (and international baggage allowance) to the domestic flight (and domestic baggage allowance)...please be lifting us up that we will find favor with the ticket counter gods service staff!  In 6 years I've never had an issue with this...but apparently things do change (surprise, surprise) and I may have a run for my money (or at least people trying to demand that I pay for my luggage to fly the rest of the way home!)  Never hoped before that I would appear overwhelmed and desperate enough with only 3 children in tow that someone would have pity on me!

Going to post a few cherished photos from our summer visit with ALL our kids!  We had 2 days with all 9+1 (our dear daughter-in-law) and got a few photos that we'll cherish forever!  The visit brought even more phenomenal news to us...that the Rockstar and his Princess will soon be making us GRANDPARENTS!  In January we expect to behold the beautiful sight of Malachi!  Wow!  Now that is joyful anticipation!

Must run and try to cross some more t's and dot some more i's...

The H Family, July 2011

13 September 2011

Email - Reminder

Forgot to mention in my last post...

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Grace and peace.

Rocking Middle America....alone

Well this is a change in my day to day existence...

No kids traveling with me as the boys stayed behind (thanks to Gramma and P.)  It is positively weird not to have to tend to something for someone else.

I am currently seated in the Kansas City airport awaiting my flight back to the West Coast.  I flew over here two days ago to visit my dear Sister and Brother-in-law, their kids, and their Sunday group.  It was an awesome Sunday! I had the joy of telling the stories of lives in the Middle Kingdom, stories of His awesome power, and of  our hopes for the days to come.

My Bro-in-Law "taught" an incredible lesson of why bad things happen...to display His "works through 'our' lives."  I was so, so pleased to hear such an inspired teaching.  Too often I hear the teaching that we need to pray more to be rescued from the troubles of this world, I've even heard Leaders teaching that they are frustrated with Him for not "fixing" the state of things...but these matters happen so that His work can be displayed...through the Body!  These troubles display a need that His Body is supposed to be addressing...not sitting back waiting for Him to take the troubles away!  I was so refreshed by this solid teaching yesterday and I was reminded that it is the meeting of troubles head on, working to alleviate suffering, promote justice, and giving grace that is His answer to the world's question of "why?"

I had nearly 48 hours to talk and talk and talk with my sister, too.  She is so precious to me.  We spurred each other on in our various "fields of harvest,"  she in middle America, me in the Middle Kingdom.  This time of being separated from Daddy and the girls has been so difficult, yet, I see how every bit of the time is being used for great purpose.  As I talked through the matters of life and the Kingdom with my sister, it became more and more clear how He has been revealing Himself to me.  It truth, it has been a rich time for me to listen.

I'm ready to be home, my family all together again.  The year ahead, I believe, will be a very challenging one.  Already Daddy has experienced many difficulties, many more than in our first three years...but with those struggles...some fruit is ripening.  We are thankful for the encouragements we see.

Wednesday we will celebrate the removal of The Bruiser's cast.  Daddy and the girls will be savoring the final days of Grandma D's visit with them.

I am thankful that no matter where I am, no matter where I go, He is with me.  My visit here this weekend reminded me of how joyful it is to be with others who share the same light and love.

The needs are great.  The fields are ripe.  There is much work to do.  Let the Body arise and do what she was made to do in this place and all over the world!

08 September 2011

Celebrate...and Wait

Received wonderful news today from our agency that the next step in our paperwork to bring Nehemiah home is complete!  Ordinarily we would now be rushing to do the last step paperwork on the US side...but...we've got to wait for another answer regarding a significant development.  Until we have that answer and I can share fully here what that development is...we have to wait.
So much of this adoption has been about learning to WAIT on Him.  I can see just a few glimpses of "why" we've had to wait...and I am excited to see what He will bring about next.   It is good for me to be reminded that all things are under His control and that every matter, for His purposes, is within His grasp.  This is where I find rest.

Nehemiah turns five next month.  I so hope he will be with his forever family to celebrate that day as he's been without his family for the last four.  But, all things in His time.

The boys and I are so homesick.  Though the time has been swift since Daddy and the girls went back...13 more days and we'll be going home too.

A few more dental appointments...saying goodbye to the final cast on The Bruiser's foot...and a few more sweet days with those we love.

We celebrate today...for Nehemiah is one step closer to home...and wait we will for the next step to be revealed.

04 September 2011

Encouragement


A few weeks ago, our partner went back to QQ's village.  She had a better camera, a scale to weigh him, and three weeks worth of milk powder, cereal, and eggs.  Her email told me that she found him getting stronger, his weight increasing, and with a happy heart!  The above photo is of his picturesque village.

I have seen a few photos of QQ's older siblings, the olders are all daughters.  I was touched deeply by the below photo of this boy, his lip repair looking great, being carried by his sister.


QQ's family is one of the many minority groups Here.  The below photo shows his grandmother at the dinner table with him, she wearing the traditional dress.


Like many parts of the US, the summer is brutally hot in QQ's village.  The photo of this dear boy makes me feel hot just looking at him!


Below:  But this photo, this is the one that brought tears to my eyes...


Momma, holding her boy and washing his feet.  A smile on her face, though she is bashful for the camera...a smile I've never seen before.  How beautiful it is to see them, in their home, living life as a family...full of hope for the future together!  Just 18 months ago she gave birth to a son that she knew she couldn't keep.  She had no way financially to fix the cleft in his lip and palate.   Yet, she fought bitterly and courageously against the acceptance of that fate...left her village and people group and traveled more than 20 hours standing on a train with her son tied on her back...to sit down and endure the degradation of begging on a street near my home.  I admire her to my core.

The villagers knew she left with the baby and I imagine that they all knew she would return without the son who was born unlucky.  That is simply how it is done.

But instead, she brought her baby home...healed.

I wonder how the news spread around the village? Did they finally arrive at the question...WHY?  This was surely not the outcome they expected.

Then, by a perfect design, someone came to the village...someone who could speak their dialect...who knew the answer to the "why" question.  Someone who brought food to help the boy continue to grow so that he could go away to another far away place and have another sugery. 

Then they all hear.

The answer is love.  Love that is quite literally...out of this world.

03 September 2011

Back at it...

We've been enjoying furlough in the US which as given us some wonderful moments with family and friends.  There are several developments that are taking shape in regards to our future, items that began as that still, small voice and now are matters of obedience that we will walk through.  We've experienced encouragements, discouragements, and His grace through all of it.  We have talked and talked and talked and talked to people to share His story...and so, the writing has been non-existent here.  It is time to get back on the horse.

The summer has included a dozen trips to Shriner's Hospital where we've experienced such excellent care.  The Bruiser's leg/foot barely resemble the clubbed foot with which he came to us.  He has been a soldier, excitedly enduring each weekly casting, the surgery to lengthen tendons, and the struggle to keep up with a perpetual cast on his leg.  "I'm going to run so fast, fast!"  He tells anyone who asks about the cast.  When he came home to us last year, the effects of institutionalization were profound.  We thought that his "main issue" to be addressed was the club foot...how wrong we were.  Our guy needed to learn how to be human...how to interact...how to trust...how to love.  We had thought the healing was needed in his feet.  Yet we discovered the healing was needed in his heart and mind.  The year we waited to correct the club foot was, by perfect design, the time needed to witness the miracle of his coming alive!  Where he once only responded with fear and anger when approached by others...now he warmly greets anyone he can.  He is the biggest comedian in our family!  Where once his face was mostly blank and expressionless, now he has a MILLION crazy facial expressions that he uses to reduce everyone to laughter and smiles!  Where he once would go to any person who grabbed a hold of him...now he insists that he remain with his family.  Just last week, I had to leave to take his older sisters to the airport to send them back to the Middle Kingdom for the start of their school year.  The Bruiser pressed me, over and over again, "Momma, please don't leave me."  Of course I reassured him each time...but my heart soared at how right it was...that he knew he belonged to me/us...

The Singer has blossomed in his English this summer.  He chatters on and on with us now, asking probing questions and pressing us for more info on EVERYTHING!  He had to grapple with fear and trust issues that often caused him to be whiny and fussy...episodes that were nearly a daily occurrence.  Yet, we have seen him come on to a new level of confidence in his place in the family.  He is much more smiley, less tense, and he has warmed to his extended family.  When dining at our friend's Chinese restaurant last week in our old hometown, the friend commented that he was "amazed" at how the brothers are now "just brothers and part of the family."  The comment was not lost on me.  It is good to pause and marvel at how His love had permeated their hearts and brought deep healing.  Adoption truly is a miracle, for us in the spiritual sense, and also on the physical level for those of us blessed enough to witness it up close. 

Bub rounds out the rest of my current posse.  We are the last scheduled to depart and return home.  Daddy left us three weeks ago to fulfill his duties for the school as Dean and prepare for the first day of school which was September 1.  The girls stayed on with me to savor some special days at the Fair (our first in 3 years), more family fun, and finally returned with their Grandma D just this week.  Now the girls with Grandma are back with Daddy and school has begun. The boys and I are left shuffling about waiting for the last cast to be removed so that we too can get back to our work with the rest of the tribe.  We are so grateful that we're able to stay with family and friends and have some extra special moments with loved ones that have been so scarce in recent years.

We are still waiting for paperwork to bring our newest son home.  Curious delays have presented themselves...probably for Great purpose...that we can reveal to you at a later time.  We are eager to get Nehemiah home but trust that He has the perfect design for the entire process, inclusive of the timing!

We've had marvelous news about QQ!  His last check-up with our partner in his province showed that he was gaining weight due to the regular support of formula, eggs, cereal, etc that we've been sending his way.  I received the most beautiful pictures of him, at home, WITH HIS FAMILY...that brought me to tears. The Good News has spread throughout his rural village and we have just a glimpse of how the miracle for QQ has effected so many in his life.  How thrilled we are that we've been privileged to be a tiny part in the Plan for this boy, his family, and his fellow villagers.  I will post the pictures in the coming days!

We have been fed(physically and spiritually), loved, and encouraged by our people these past 8 weeks.  I have a growing anticipation for our fourth year.  The opposition has been intense in country on matters vital to our school's (and our family's work in the school) future.    But, we're seeing once again that if He is for us, who can be against us? 

I'm down to the last four or five items on my list to find and haul back to our home.  Though I'm in the States until the 20th of September, I've already begun to pack my bags.  It is so difficult to be separated from part of the family.  What a time of joy we'll have when we're all back together...for 5 minutes or so before the kids start crashing into each other's space like cars at the demolition derby!

There is much to be encouraged about...He is working through countless lives...we've heard story after story this furlough about His hand at work.  We are grateful for the joy that is in this journey of adventure.  This year we expect to stretch us further, press us harder, and reveal more of His nature to us than ever before.  When you think of us...ask for courage...that we will embrace obedience and do all He has prepared in advance for us to do...no matter how scary that obedience appears!

And so begins year 4...